As for the playground/snow lodge scene, we really do not know how attentive Syaoran is.
We cannot say that one possibility is more likely than the other, here.
Perhaps he was not listening. Perhaps he was. We just know that Syaoran was silent.
I come with an open mind. If you adress my assumptions, and provide me with counterexamples, I will believe you. I would want to believe in Sakura+Syaoran, but I cannot right now. I need people to convince me first.
As I said, it is very evident of the theory that Sakura feels more secure physically Syaoran.
However, the other theory that Sakura feels more emotionally secure is still lacking of evidence.
As for Sakura loving Syaoran emotionally, I could see that Sakura kinda told Syaoran her problems. Actually, I do not actually see Syaoran soothing Sakura at all.
I could believe that if you give me evidence.
As for Syaoran loving Sakura because she is Sakura, I still doubt this.
Syaoran love stoicism. Supporting statement: Syaoran told her not to cry.
Off-topic: Sakura and Tomoyo are not identical. They are COMPLIMENTARY (Well, that is my opinion.)
Sakura creates an atmosphere of delight, happiness, and excitement.
Tomoyo creates an atmosphere of elegance, happiness, and calmness.
Syaoran creates an atmosphere of sternness, stoicism, and calmness.
Those are my claims.
Actually, Syaoran told her not to cry and think. That is problem solving.
If you would think that Syaoran thought that Sakura was weak because of kindness, then you should rethink.
Syaoran thinks of this as weakness because she is crying, not because she is caring about a friend.
And as for Syaoran caring for Sakura, well many other people care about Sakura the same way.
That's it for today. I can only read that much, and type that much.
*I will create a list based on the anime so that we can all look at it objectively. Of course, there will be my inferences added on to it. However, realize that those are only inferences, and if you think that there is another possibilty, I could add on to it. It will take a few days to make. Of course, if you want to save me the trouble, you could do that.
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Edit: Reply to part of post: (2: moezy-chan)
Realize that I do not agree with Syaoran. Syaoran thinks that crying is weakness. I have no opinions on this. When I say that crying is weakness, I mean that Syaoran thinks that crying is weakness.