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Re: Advice Column: Ask Away~ ^^
« Reply #120 on: June 07 2005, 08:37 am »
Yeah, I WANT to go out with other people . . .but finding other people that I don't want to beat with a blunt object [repeatedly] is the problem for me.
And then with homework, and dance and coming on HERE . . .I can't seem to find the time, haha!
Plus the whole chronic depression thing that I seemed to forget about, haha ....err....
I try to ignore that last part.
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« Reply #121 on: June 08 2005, 10:03 am »
Really?
i never would've guess you sound so nice.
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« Reply #122 on: June 08 2005, 01:05 pm »
Ahh, my violent streak can never go unoticed for long.
Eventually it comes out.
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« Reply #123 on: June 09 2005, 11:43 am »
ha ha
that is so weird cuz they say i look like a real trouble maker. ( it's true i look likea gang manber)
But i'm sweet i would never hurt a fly. Only swat them cuz they're annoying.
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« Reply #124 on: June 27 2005, 05:42 am »
Heya, i'm needing some advice on this situation...and was wondering if anyone could help.. ^^;

I have a really good friend whom i had to part with a few weeks ago, because i was beginning University. So i asked if we could keep in touch, and she gave my her address and number, telling me to call her and let her know how i'm getting on at Uni and things..
Thing is i 'really really' like her and i plan to call her probably sometime this week or next. I have a problem though, i miss her so much, and wanted to invite her out to go somewhere or do something, but i just don't know what we could do or where we could go!
We've only really been out once before and that was for coffee, and this time i wanted to do something different.

Does anyone have any ideas!? ^_^;;

(I should also mention without being too specific, that she is also quite a bit older than me.)


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« Reply #125 on: June 27 2005, 05:37 pm »
Umm....could you give more info? Is she a quiet person, or a loud person?

I suppose you could go cinema/ice-skating/shopping trip/amusement park?

Those are very general ideas though....does she have any hobbies or passions?


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« Reply #126 on: June 28 2005, 12:54 am »
Heya, i'm needing some advice on this situation...and was wondering if anyone could help.. ^^;

I have a really good friend whom i had to part with a few weeks ago, because i was beginning University. So i asked if we could keep in touch, and she gave my her address and number, telling me to call her and let her know how i'm getting on at Uni and things..
Thing is i 'really really' like her and i plan to call her probably sometime this week or next. I have a problem though, i miss her so much, and wanted to invite her out to go somewhere or do something, but i just don't know what we could do or where we could go!
We've only really been out once before and that was for coffee, and this time i wanted to do something different.

Does anyone have any ideas!? ^_^;;

(I should also mention without being too specific, that she is also quite a bit older than me.)

Movies tend to be good, since I would assume you would know what she likes in a movie.

Romantic dinners are also a safe way to hedge your bets.
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Re: Advice Column: Ask Away~ ^^
« Reply #127 on: June 28 2005, 04:58 am »
Umm....could you give more info? Is she a quiet person, or a loud person?

I suppose you could go cinema/ice-skating/shopping trip/amusement park?

Those are very general ideas though....does she have any hobbies or passions?

Well she's probably  more quiet than loud...but yet she's pretty outgoing! ^^;

As for hobbies/passions..well nothing that i could really put myself up to.. I guess i was just really looking for general ideas.

Going to the cinema was really the only thing i'd think she'd really be willing to do....but, yeah, ice-skating did come to mind..but i'm scared to ask about that one because i fear her rejecting me.. ><  She isn't round about my age..more like in her early forty's so i just don't know what to do..

Bet i'm sounding even more stupid by the second.. -_-;

Thanks for your ideas also Shinigami Zero!


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« Reply #128 on: June 28 2005, 07:26 am »
humm
 do you any clubs around there.
you said she was outgoing so you could take her to a club
movies sounds really good and then later go get some ice cream
oh yeah the ice cream.
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« Reply #129 on: June 28 2005, 01:56 pm »
Sounds like something I did the other day. Movie and then ice cream!
It's a nice, safe, combo!
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« Reply #130 on: June 30 2005, 10:51 am »
yup the perfect date.
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« Reply #131 on: October 07 2005, 07:13 am »
I'm reviving this thread, because a lot of people out there keep asking for advice - so here you go!


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« Reply #132 on: October 09 2005, 02:44 pm »
Here's a change; I'm actually asking for advice instead of giving it. I have a problem. As the majority of you know, I hate my job with a passion! I like to call it the job from He**! Lately it's gotten worse. I was forced into my job because my mother gave me an ultimatum. Get a job or get out. She wanted me to get a job and instead of letting me find one for myself, she forced this job on me.

I was forced to work in a fast food restraunt; Arby's. It wouldn't be so bad, but I am a recovering anorexic, and I don't eat fast food. It makes me throw up, so when I started working there, I was very sick. I've gotten used to it, but I refuse to eat any of there food, with their salads as an exception. That's the only thing I can eat.

That used to be my only problem. Now, the manager that hired me is gone, and we've got a new manager. My previous manager was nice, and respectful. She didn't treat me like a disgruntled employee, but she's gone now. The new manager is nice but one problem. He brought 2 new managers with him.

One is a woman from Lebanon, that moved to the states. She seems nice when you first meet her, but if you're just an employee, she is very sarcastic, and loves to tease people. I wouldn't mind this, but the way she teases is a direct insult to you. It gets very annoying. She'll first give me a compliment, but then she's breathing down my neck and even though she has trouble speaking English, she talks to me like I don't know how to speak English. It's very degrading. Also, I hope I didn't just offend anybody on this forum that has trouble speaking English. I apologise if I did.

The next manager started working at Arby's at the age of 16, and is now 26. Too young to be a manager if you ask me. She first acts nice, but then she'll be very degrading. Once you get on her bad side, you stay on her bad side. She holds grudges with a passion, and she hates my guts. One problem, I don't look my age. I'm 22 and people say I look like I'm 16, so I am treated like a kid when people first meet me. She thought I was 16, and she began to treat me like a kid. She did find out that I'm 22, but still treats me like I'm a child. I approached her about this, and she pretty much threw a temper tantrum. She treats me like a child, and yet she acts like one. Hypocrite.

Ok, now the problem. I want to quit my job. I can't stand it there, and I don't get any respect. At least not like I used to. Despite this, my logical side is taking over, and is telling me to stay because I need the money. I'm starving because my parents take my money, and I hardly have any for myself. Try making $50 last 2 weeks. It's not easy. Also, I have bills. If I quit, I would have to get rid of my life insurance, which I can't quit because I got my insurance when I was 17, and it cost $20 a month, but if I quit and rejoin, I would have to pay $25-$30 a month. Granted it's not much, but I have trouble enough paying $20 a month, so it would be even harder for me.

Also, I would have to get rid of my cell phone. Now it sounds like I'm another one of those people who think that if they don't have a cell phone then it will be the end of the world. That's not it. I hate all phones, especially cell phones. If I could get rid of it, I would, but I can't. I don't have the money to afford a car, and when I go to college, I've been known to spend the entire day at campus when I'm not working. I need to call home so I can be picked up. If not, I can't get home. It's 30 miles to my campus, and there is no bus that I can get from my house, and taxi's are too expensive.

So to end this very long, and quite possibly boring thread, should I stick it out for the next 2 1/2 years until I graduate, or quit and keep my self-respect?

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Re: Advice Column: Ask Away~ ^^
« Reply #133 on: October 09 2005, 02:53 pm »
Hmm..
I'm not much of an "advice-giver" but I'll see what I can do.
Maybe you could look for work elsewhere, but still work there until you can find something else?
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« Reply #134 on: October 09 2005, 02:56 pm »
Hmm..
I'm not much of an "advice-giver" but I'll see what I can do.
Maybe you could look for work elsewhere, but still work there until you can find something else?

Believe me, I've looked. Nobody wants to hire me, and I know why. It's because I'm a college student. Nobody wants to hire college students for these reasons: 1) I can only work part-time, 2) They have to work around my schedule, and 3) I will quit as soon as I graduate and get my teaching degree.

Thank you for helping though.

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« Reply #135 on: October 09 2005, 06:55 pm »
Have you tried talking to the new manager that you said brought this woman in? If not, a simple conversation may help. And if this doesn't work, I think you should talk to someone about the standards of your workplace. Sounds drastic, I know, but what you're experiencing sounds to me like mistreatment of employees, which breeches the human rights act, I think.


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« Reply #136 on: October 10 2005, 06:36 am »
The new manager is the one who made her a manager in the first place. He's had customers complain to him about her, but he doesn't do a da** thing. Besides, nobody would believe me. I know this for a fact.

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« Reply #137 on: October 12 2005, 09:41 am »
Aw..mozey-chan.. *Hugs*

I really think you should look for another job. The way you're being treated seems terribly unfair, and no one deserves that.
Hm, you said it was difficult finding anyone that would hire a College student, right? Instead of going out and looking for work elsewhere, have you tried advertising for work in your local newspaper? Or well i'm at University not College so i'm not entirely sure, but doesn't your College have some sort of employment on campus? Maybe you could work somewhere in that vicinity?

Well, i don't know if my advice helped in the slightest, but i certainly hope everything gets better for you!

P.S You're studying for a teaching degree!? Me too! =D


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« Reply #138 on: October 12 2005, 12:24 pm »
Even if I do have skills, I don't have experience. People don't like to hire if you don't have experience, so I really can't advertise. Also, the only place they have at my campus is the same fast food restraunt. I am still looking for a job, and I'll find one eventually. I just have to hang in there. Thanks for the advice though.

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« Reply #139 on: October 12 2005, 06:57 pm »
looney: by what i've read of you, you sound like a gang member/thug.

Moezy, can't you just get a job through a word of mouth inside a company?
That's basically how i and everone i know gets job easy. Someone works there who you or you parants know and they put in a good word. normally works.
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