Topic: The Girl Thread (New Poll as of May 24th!) (Read 529045 times)

Cherry-chan · « **Reply #4620 on:** April 25 2006, 11:47 am »

Hmm... my advice... well, I suppose the best you could do is be there for her. I was reading this pamphlet my mom had after my grandfather died (that's one of the moments where I've cried the hardest), and it said that saying "______ had gone to a better place" is not really the best thing to say to someone who's mourning. So, yeah, just be there for her, and when she's comfortable, she'll talk to you. Sometimes words don't mean as much as actions, ne? She'll most likely be glad that you were there for her the whole way while she was crying, sad, etc.

Gomen ne. This is the only advice I can give right now, since I'm really stressed and my worries have practically consumed me.

Monse-chan · « **Reply #4621 on:** April 25 2006, 12:54 pm »

On the contrary, all your advice has helped me think and realise what isw better to do!

Thank you so much.... *huggles*

moezychan · « **Reply #4622 on:** April 25 2006, 12:58 pm »

I don't think I could say anything to top what everyone else has already said. Best thing really is to just be there for her. Actions are far better than words.

LSD · « **Reply #4623 on:** April 25 2006, 05:40 pm »

Quote from: Monse-chan on April 25 2006, 11:36 am

Ano.... I need a bit of help from you, girls....

You see, I am bit confused, since one of my best friends lost someone that was dear to her... today she didn't come to school, and we were told by the teacher that there was going to be a funeral, and that if we were able, we could go to give her support in saying goodbye....

I didn't talk much with her, we were mostly hugging to each other the whole time.... but I am not sure how I can help her, or act now with her, while she is still in pain (the person passed away yesterday)

Can I get a bit of advice, onegai?

I am not sure she is coming tomorrow to school, but I wonder if I should call her, or leave her with her family? Until now I have only gone to the funeral but I havenÂ´t actually TALKED with her.... and I am not sure what I should say....Â

and whatever happens.. don't leave her alone!!!
once..my friends's mother died.. and we all went to her funeral.. and she was crying a lot (of curse).. we able to calm her a little, cuz she hadn't eat..and we just left like 30 secns..and a weird lazy was talking with her..i just went really fast to give her the food cuz i was burning my hands.. and then that stupid lady said "but don't worry..you mother didn't feel anything..her liver was destroyed in the accident and crashed in pieces after all" i was lke..*shut your mouth!!!*..and my friend cried again and said "how she couldn't feelÂ anything..if a truck was above her*.. i wanted to slap that lady face in that moment T_T#..

In other occacion..one of my best friend..lost his boyfriend..he was murderer in the worst way you could imagine..she didn't went to school for 2days...i called her..but nobody aswered..i went to her house..but noody was there..i was started to get a little scary..
2 days latter she came to school..crying..and screaming.. she really suffured in that moment, cuz she just had an abort and was mouning her baby... i cried with her ;_; and didn't say anything..we were crying like for 5 hours...without talking..until she fell sleep next to me..
that was one of my sadest moments...

for me..as eveybody already said.. just hug her till she can't breath...and don't talk...sometimes silence is the best..but just hug her so she will feel that she is not alone.
and when she stops crying a little..talk with her about..ramdom things that won't make him remind that person in that moment..

moezychan · « **Reply #4624 on:** April 26 2006, 06:05 am »

Excellent advice Pretty-chan. Yeah I know, you have a new username, but I'll always call you that. Sometimes just being there is the best thing for her. Words usually tend to get in the way.

Monse-chan · « **Reply #4625 on:** April 26 2006, 10:00 am »

Thank you so much for advice.... she didn't come to school today, but she called me and told me she would try to come tomorrow...

I am feeling a little better myself, it was a bit of a shock, since I had never been before in a funeral....

I feel really supported, and want to thank you all for advice, it means a LOT to me!!!!

moezychan · « **Reply #4626 on:** April 26 2006, 10:22 am »

I'm glad to hear that Monse-chan. Hope your friend feels better, and hope you feel better as well. Don't make her problems your problems. Just be there for her.

bie liao · « **Reply #4627 on:** April 26 2006, 10:23 am »

I'm glad everythings worked out for you and her both, and I hope that she feels better. I agree with moezy-chan, being there for her is probably best.

Hikari B. · « **Reply #4628 on:** April 26 2006, 11:10 am »

There's always a time when your friends hits a bump in the road. All you have to do is help them get over that bump and move on. Good advice, big sis. Gee, how can old people be so heartless? T_T#

Worst of all, I started my period today! Good thing the blood didn't leak while I was in school. -__- Phew... Gyah! My week of monthly torture has begun!

Shiunu · « **Reply #4629 on:** April 26 2006, 11:16 am »

Aww poor Hikari-chan! I'm just now getting off mine.

moezychan · « **Reply #4630 on:** April 26 2006, 11:17 am »

Aww, gomen Hikari-chan. That really su**s. I finished mine just yesterday. But I'm glad that you didn't leak! That makes it worse >_< I used to do that in school. Torture, pure torture.

Shiunu · « **Reply #4631 on:** April 26 2006, 11:23 am »

Oh yeah leaking is never good. :/

Hikari B. · « **Reply #4632 on:** April 26 2006, 11:23 am »

I remember a blood stain showed through my khakis at school one time. Good thing I covered with my with my jacket. Jackets to the rescue!

Shiunu · « **Reply #4633 on:** April 26 2006, 11:28 am »

Wow! I'm sure glad that you had a jacket. I can't imagine how embarrasing that would have been. I'm glad that hasn't happened to me before.

Hikari B. · « **Reply #4634 on:** April 26 2006, 11:29 am »

I just felt it when I got a bit of a cramp. Arrrgh, I'll never get any sleep. Stupid f***** cramps! TT__TT#

moezychan · « **Reply #4635 on:** April 26 2006, 11:34 am »

I always make it a habit of carrying pads with me at all times. Unless your school doesn't allow purses Hikari-chan? Cause I know some don't. Doesn't make any sense to me. >_<

Shiunu · « **Reply #4636 on:** April 26 2006, 11:40 am »

Yeah I always carry some with me around the time I'm supposed to start. Cause you never know.

Hikari B. · « **Reply #4637 on:** April 26 2006, 12:11 pm »

I usually keep some in my backpack.

Cherry-chan · « **Reply #4638 on:** April 26 2006, 12:21 pm »

Quote from: Shiunu on April 26 2006, 11:28 am

Wow! I'm sure glad that you had a jacket. I can't imagine how embarrasing that would have been. I'm glad that hasn't happened to me before.

Sadly, it's happened to me before. I didn't have a jacket, and I didn't notice until I got home! So I was walking around with a stain all day! I remember I wasn't that concerned when I got home (okay, I was a bit embarassed), I figured that it would just blow over (I remember a member here said that to me, too and it helped

), and it pretty much did. I don't think I was ever talked about or anything, I have no clue what people thought. It was small, too, so I could get the stain out pretty quickly.

Quote from: moezy-chan on April 26 2006, 11:34 am

I always make it a habit of carrying pads with me at all times. Unless your school doesn't allow purses Hikari-chan? Cause I know some don't. Doesn't make any sense to me. >_<

I carry one in my backpack. My school allows purses, and once I saw a couple of pads and tampons fall out of a girl's purse. I felt horrible for her, since there were so many people around. Ugh, school and periods do not mix. It just makes us girls nervous, uncomfortable, and annoyed!

moezychan · « **Reply #4639 on:** April 26 2006, 12:26 pm »

Quote from: Cherry-chan on April 26 2006, 12:21 pm

I carry one in my backpack. My school allows purses, and once I saw a couple of pads and tampons fall out of a girl's purse. I felt horrible for her, since there were so many people around. Ugh, school and periods do not mix. It just makes us girls nervous, uncomfortable, and annoyed!

I have a purse within a purse, which prevents that. It used to happen to me all the time! I have a big tote bag that actually looks like a purse because of the dolphin design on it, and a small mini purse that I can carry in it.

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