The Girl Thread (New Poll as of May 24th!)

[Jeannette]

No rule against it. After all, some girls were chatting it up on the Guy Thread not too long ago

(shrug) Then it's fine. But I don't want him here just to cause trouble, and it looks like that's what he's trying to do. Nobody has even mentioned his name. If he thinks moezy-chan is talking about him, then he should take it to moezy-chan or to you or another mod.

[moezychan]

(shrug) Then it's fine. But I don't want him here just to cause trouble, and it looks like that's what he's trying to do. Nobody has even mentioned his name. If he thinks moezy-chan is talking about him, then he should take it to moezy-chan or to you or another mod.

Thank you LadyUltima. That is very thoughtful of you.

[Jeannette]

You're welcome, moezy-chan.

And Strawberry- friendships are always complex, ne? In someways they're more difficult that romantic relationships. After all, in romantic relationships the lines are fairly clear and well-known, but the lines in friendship are harder to figure out sometimes. I'm sorry you're losing sleep over friendship issues. Hope it works out.

[Arcademan]

(shrug) Then it's fine. But I don't want him here just to cause trouble, and it looks like that's what he's trying to do. Nobody has even mentioned his name. If he thinks moezy-chan is talking about him, then he should take it to moezy-chan or to you or another mod.

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[itsafactiact]

hey hey, its been awhile since I've been on, what with school starting up again. But i'm so glad to be back oh and hey I got into Titus Andronicus!! And I'm Lavinia, having never done a dramatic shakespeare piece or having a big part in a shakespeare piece before i'm so honored. So ya i'm having a good week. I hope everyone else has a good week as well. And keep your chin up its harder to think of bad things when you look up

[augustserenade]

Yuki-chan: I had a friend like that too. Except she didn't just copy me... she copied almost everyone in our group. For example, when I started to get like anime a lot, she suddenly started liking it. When another friend said she liked the Yankees, she started liking them and started watching games. And in music too, she jumped from liking one artist to the next, based on everyone else's tastes. I was always afraid that she didn't have any hobby/obsession to call her own, but it seems like she's grown out of the habit by now. I guess she was just really easily influenced.

Hopefully your friend will grow out of it too, and soon. If not, I guess the best way would be to tell her. If it were me, I'd probably just throw hints around, like Sugar Fairy said, since it's hard for me to confront someone so directly.  Maybe she's trying to get closer to you and show that she has a lot in common with you (which wouldn't be true since she's copying you). In any case, she needs to get the message that copying you is annoying somehow...

[itsafactiact]

there's a phrase that i'm trying to remember its something like imitation is the most sincere form of flattery. but you should just talk to them, they probably admire you so much they want to be just like you, maybe they think they are not good enough on their own. you should tell them that they are enough.

[Sugar Fairy]

Really curious about what you guys would do if faced with the scenarios below. These are just hypothetical questions oki?

What would you do if your bestfriend admits to you that she likes this guy that you've had a crush on for the longest time? How would you react/what would you do if they start going out?

[Jeannette]

If the friend knew that you had a crush on the guy she's now going out with, you would have a right to be mad, and I would decide whether you need to talk to her about this or not. If she didn't know, I wouldn't say anything.

[augustserenade]

Yes, I agree with My Lady. *nodnod*

Here's something I found on my friend's Xanga site which I enjoyed reading. She put it on her blog, but I don't know if she wrote it, so maybe you've seen it before and maybe you haven't. I thought it'd be nice to share it with you all. ^__^

Are your palms sweaty, is your heart racing, and your voice caught within your chest?
It isn't Love, it's Like.

You can't keep your eyes or hands off of them, am I right?
It isn't Love, it's Lust.

Are you proud, and eager to show them off?
It isn't Love, it's Luck.

Do you want them because you know they're there?
It isn't Love, it's Loneliness.

Are you there because it's what everyone wants?
It isn't Love, it's Loyalty.

Do you stay for their confessions of Love, because you don't want to hurt them?
It isn't Love, it's Pity.

Are you there because they kissed you, or held your hand?
It isn't Love, it's being Unconfident.

Do you belong to them because their sight makes your heart skip a beat?
It isn't Love, it's Infatuation.

Do you pardon their faults because you care about them?
It isn't Love, it's Friendship.

Do you tell them every day they are the only one you think of?
It isn't Love, it's a Lie.

Are you willing to give all of your favorite things for their sake?
It isn't Love, it's Charity.

Does your heart ache and break when they're sad?
Then it's Love.

Are you attracted to others, but stay with them faithfully without regret?
Then it's Love.

Do you accept their faults because they're a part of who they are?
Then it's Love.

Do you cry for their pain, even when they're strong?
Then it's Love.

Do their eyes see your true heart, and touch your soul so deeply it hurts?
Then it's Love.

But do you stay because a blinding, incomprehensible mix of pain and elation pulls you close and holds you?
Then it's Love.

Would you give them your heart, your life, your death?
Then it's Love.

Erm... tell me if this belongs in another thread or something. ^^;;;;

[Jeannette]

Aww... hoshi, that is so sweet. (melts) Thanks for posting that.

[Ralea]

Really curious about what you guys would do if faced with the scenarios below. These are just hypothetical questions oki?

What would you do if your bestfriend admits to you that she likes this guy that you've had a crush on for the longest time? How would you react/what would you do if they start going out?

To each her own. Naturally, she's my best friend, and even if it huts me to see him going out with her, I'll still feel happy and supportive. Besides, if they start going out, that means that he's chosen her.

And hoshi that is so sweet!

[AkaiYuki]

Oh my gosh I wasn't expecting so many replies! XD Thanks to all of you! You all gave really good advice, and I'm sorry to anyone who got scared after reading it! XD (I think that was fisah, right? LOL sorry about that!) And also, someone said it reminded them of that episode of Lizzie McGuire (sp?) and now that I thought about it, it reminds me of that episode, too! Anyway, I'll definitely be taking all of your advice! Thanks for listening! (If I can call it that since we're reading...)

Now to reply to the other girls!

Stawberry: You're having a friend problem, too? It seems really bad if you couldn't sleep! What was it? (You don't have to tell us if it's too personal, though!)

Sugar Fairy: Oh my goodness, don't you hate it when that kind of thing happens? Hmm, I'm not sure what to tell you.. How long have you liked the guy and how long has she known you like him? (Hypothetically!) Also, has she done something like this before or is this the first time?

moezy-chan: OK, I was going to PM you, but I think I can do it here! Alright, you said your mother has ALWAYS seemed to favor your brother, right? I hate to ask this, but is he the only boy (besides father) in your family? Because I once knew a girl who said her mother treated her brother WAY better than her and her sisters, but she said her mom's reason was because she had once lost a son during child birth. (Before the girl and her sisters were born) I'm not saying that's definitely it OR that it's a justiying reason, but I've heard it a lot..

Anyway, on the subject of the hospital: She never visited you in the hospital even once, but she visited your brother? Is his condition worse or anything like that? Again, even if that's true I don't think it's a justifying reason, but again, it's one I've heard a lot. Also, had you been in the hospital for anemia before? Because if so, maybe she's just used to you going there and turning out OK, but with your brother maybe it scares her more because he doesn't go to the hospital often.

However, your situation seems really complicated and no one knows it better than you. So if to you it seems she ALWAYS favors him no matter WHAT the situation, I have to agree with LadyUltima when she said it seems like your mom has a serious issue regarding you two. (Especially considering he tried to kill you) I'd advise trying to talk to her about it, but I know that sometimes talking to someone like your own mother about a subject like that can be very difficult.

[Sugar Fairy]

Thanks for the replies LadyUltima, Hoshisenshi and Ralea!

I've got two friends who went through that right now. They've been bestfriends and they both liked the same guy for the longest time. They didn't encourage the guy,they were just being their natural selves and he chose one of them.

It's really sad for me, because they're both my friends.. and it's putting a strain in their relationship. I can relate to them both, in the sense that i can imagine how hurtful it must be to be, well, not chosen by your crush. but then again, i can also imagine what it would feel like to know that you were chosen, but you also know that being chosen hurts your bestfriend.

does that make sense?

[Ralea]

Absolutely. Either way, it's sad that both will get hurt, no matter who he chooses.

Does anybody feel this? When suddenly people are whispering around you, and when you ask them they won't tell you. And then you get this uncomfortable feeling that it's about you? I can't stand that, and it's happenning to me now. I dunno why, maybe I'm just paranoid. Or maybe I'm just plain dense that I have no idea what's going on around me.

Sorry for that rant but I had to get that out. Whew.

[Sugar Fairy]

Does anybody feel this? When suddenly people are whispering around you, and when you ask them they won't tell you. And then you get this uncomfortable feeling that it's about you? I can't stand that, and it's happenning to me now. I dunno why, maybe I'm just paranoid. Or maybe I'm just plain dense that I have no idea what's going on around me.

in my experience, it usually DOES mean that they talk about you.. otherwise, they'd trip over their own tongues spilling the beans about somebody else. is there a way you can figure out if they're talking about you? if you have a 'spy' in the other side?

[LSD]

In my experience.. trust me maybe im not too old but i have lived more things that im suppose to live for my age...if you did something of couse they are talking about you. But if your soul is clean of any evel thing maybe you are just a little paranoic...
if they are talking about you.. trust me.. secrets dont exist you will find out sooner that you think, and a spy is a good idea.

  In anycases dont stress yourself with such simple things... live your life!!! dont let them down you!!!!!!!... they give you food, a place where to leave.. they take care of you when you are sick?? no right. so whats the big deal.. as long as you have your honest friends, dont care about the rest of the world.

[Cherry-chan]

Nah, I really don't care when people whisper around me and don't let me know what they're talking about. Hey, it's their own business, whatever, that's fine with me. If it's about me... I respect their opinions. I really don't care what other think about me. I think the only thing that's important is if you respect yourself, and what you think about yourself. And pretty's right, why care about what other people think about you when you have the whole world to explore and a life to live. Go live it. Haha in the words of "The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants", 'Pants = Love. Love your pals. Love youself.'

[bie liao]

I once read this quote that said something like "Why wonder what people are thinking about you?  Just think things about them," or something along those lines...and while two wrongs don't make a right, you really shouldn't worry about what people think of you.  Life is so short, and we don't have enough time to spend it on people who aren't truly our friends.

I sound horribly pessimistic, but only cause I know exactly what you're talking about.

[LSD]

i think many of us have experience this ... and we have fall but not all stand up after those fails.. so lets support those who need a hand to stand up ^^o