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Jeannette · « **Reply #3220 on:** February 20 2006, 04:48 am »

That's a difficult question. I think most people in that kind of situation are like, "How should I act?" Actually, on any date I think people think that. After all, if you knew exactly how to act on a date, it would be pretty boring, wouldn't it?

I would be pretty casual about the whole thing, but let him know you're interested. Hmm... so much about relationships depends on the individuals involved. It's hard to give romantic advice without really knowing both people involved.

Ruby Chan · « **Reply #3221 on:** February 20 2006, 06:16 am »

Well, we're both really shy, quiet people, who share most of the same classes but hardly ever speak...we used to talk when we were ditching PE together and sitting out at the side, but now the boys and girls do sport separately....

I've gone to see him play in the school concert a couple of times, and tried to get closer....but we're too quiet, and we keep falling into awkward silences...

So I'm afraid to go in case it happens again, and because I won't have a clue what to say.

That help?

Jeannette · « **Reply #3222 on:** February 20 2006, 06:52 am »

Hm... You're both quiet. That does make things a bit difficult. Comfortable silence is one thing, but uncomfortable silence is another. What topic of conversation is the most comfortable for you guys?

Ruby Chan · « **Reply #3223 on:** February 20 2006, 06:55 am »

I've normally either asked about his music or things like Christmas, etc....but now there's nothing like that coming up. We haven't really had much chance to talk since PE...people keep interrupting.

I'm going to text him soon saying yeah...but I have no clue how to act on the actual thing

Jeannette · « **Reply #3224 on:** February 20 2006, 06:59 am »

I'd say that you should probably keep things casual and friendly but not too light- don't start talking about the weather or something like that.

He's probably just as nervous as you- remember that. :-)

LSD · « **Reply #3225 on:** February 20 2006, 07:06 am »

dont think too much ><..dont try to make plans cuz they never work.. or just follow ladyultima advices cuz it seams that she is really good with them ^^
and act normal.. just be you... do things that the normal you will do.. but remember LOOK PRETTY!!! use makeup.. or jsut a lip gloss something that you wont usually wear.. just for the occacion.. so he will notice that you want to look pretty for him

AkaiYuki · « **Reply #3226 on:** February 20 2006, 07:58 am »

Yeah, Ruby chan, I definitely agree with LadyUltima. Just act as friendly and open as you can!

You say you're both quiet, right? Well I think that means he's GOTTA like you, too, or he wouldn't have had the guts to ask you to go somewhere with him even if it's just for drinks.

Don't be afraid Ruby chan!! Be confident! And like pretty said, be pretty!! You'll think of SOMETHING to talk about, I'm sure! Guys like talking about themselves, so ask him questions you haven't thought to ask before. And if he asks the same questions right back at you, I'd think he's interested! XD

Ruby Chan · « **Reply #3227 on:** February 20 2006, 08:05 am »

Thanks for the tips, guys! We've arranged it all now....I have until Friday to drown in nerves and self-pity....he offered to pay but I wouldn't let him.

Thanks for the support! My friends at home weren't that helpful!

moezychan · « **Reply #3228 on:** February 20 2006, 08:07 am »

Have fun Ruby Chan, and like the others said, just be yourself! If he truly likes you, he'll accept you no matter what you are really like!

LSD · « **Reply #3229 on:** February 20 2006, 11:28 am »

Quote from: AkaiYuki on February 20 2006, 07:58 am

Don't be afraid Ruby chan!! Be confident! And like pretty said, be pretty!! You'll think of SOMETHING to talk about, I'm sure! Guys like talking about themselves, so ask him questions you haven't thought to ask before. And if he asks the same questions right back at you, I'd think he's interested! XD

jaja i like how that soudns... be pretty like pretty ><

and as yuki said,,, is he wasnt interesting in you he wouldnt even mind to ask you.. and for god sake! dont drink to much.. ><.. i learned it in a bad way

and well.. is like a "rule" that boys always pay..well at teast for me ^^U.. but try not to insist to much about paying cuz it feels a little uncomfortable [a boy told me this]

Fai · « **Reply #3230 on:** February 20 2006, 03:27 pm »

You'll do great Ruby-chan! ^_^ Make sure to have fun, and maybe if it seems like you're having fun, it might rub off on him and both of you can relax and have fun together!!

Go for it!!! Just think of something to talk about and you'll be fine. Like the others said, he wouldn't have asked you if he liked you alot!

Wolf Blossom · « **Reply #3231 on:** February 22 2006, 11:40 am »

Have fun Ruby Chan!!!
Now i got a question....its off topic sorry...but...ok one of you Bestfriend asked a girl out right but ur kind having feelings for him....and hes like asking you all these question about dateing and stuff and well ur getting hurt well beuz you like him...He goes out on the date then he finds out that you like him from the girl...He started to ignore you...and like after a week he wants to talk about...'Us'...like what the heck is that suppose to mean? What are u suppose to do? Does this mean that our friendship is ruined and he hates me now? I am so CONFUSED!!!!!

SasukeRocks · « **Reply #3232 on:** February 22 2006, 11:53 am »

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Now i got a question....its off topic sorry...but...ok one of you Bestfriend asked a girl out right but ur kind having feelings for him....and hes like asking you all these question about dateing and stuff and well ur getting hurt well beuz you like him...He goes out on the date then he finds out that you like him from the girl...He started to ignore you...and like after a week he wants to talk about...'Us'...like what the heck is that suppose to mean? What are u suppose to do? Does this mean that our friendship is ruined and he hates me now? I am so CONFUSED!!!!!

I wouls prepare myself either for the good or the bad and yeah it might mean your friendship is ruined and then again it might not. Just take a chance and talk to him, but be prepared for anything. I hope I help.

Jeannette · « **Reply #3233 on:** February 22 2006, 12:51 pm »

SasukeRocks pretty much sums up my advice. Just talk to the guy, and hope for the best. I don't think he hates you, though; I think he's just uncomfortable with the situation.

LSD · « **Reply #3234 on:** February 22 2006, 01:10 pm »

most of the guys are uncomfortable with all first dates

..
they need a little help from us ><

Miss Jenni-Maie · « **Reply #3235 on:** February 22 2006, 01:28 pm »

Quote from: Wolf Blossom on February 22 2006, 11:40 am

Have fun Ruby Chan!!!
Now i got a question....its off topic sorry...but...ok one of you Bestfriend asked a girl out right but ur kind having feelings for him....and hes like asking you all these question about dateing and stuff and well ur getting hurt well beuz you like him...He goes out on the date then he finds out that you like him from the girl...He started to ignore you...and like after a week he wants to talk about...'Us'...like what the heck is that suppose to mean? What are u suppose to do? Does this mean that our friendship is ruined and he hates me now? I am so CONFUSED!!!!!

Quote from: SasukeRocks on February 22 2006, 11:53 am

I wouls prepare myself either for the good or the bad and yeah it might mean your friendship is ruined and then again it might not. Just take a chance and talk to him, but be prepared for anything. I hope I help.

Not neccesarily. I mean, I pretty much had the same situation happen to me last week. I told him that I liked him and ...well, he didn't ignore me, but he ignored what happened, which felt just as bad. By the end of the week he finally said we needed to "talk".
Now, he said he liked me, but we're not getting together, which is fine. And our friendship is totally fine. In fact, it's better than ever! There's no awkwardness about us anymore because we both finally know how we feel.

So, whether or not this guy likes you in that way, doesn't mean your friendship is ruined.
But then again, I don't know the guy, so I can't be sure how he deals with this sort of thing.

But all in all, I wish you luck, Wolf Blossom!

moezychan · « **Reply #3236 on:** February 22 2006, 01:30 pm »

I'm in pain; very very bad pain! I started my period! Â

It has been taunting with me for the entire week! I never thought it would come, and now I want it to go away. I'm hungry, which I hate because I hate to eat, I'm so cranky that I'm even blowing up at women right along side with men! And my back is killing me! Ok, my rants done. I really needed to get that out.

Miss Jenni-Maie · « **Reply #3237 on:** February 22 2006, 01:44 pm »

Blah, I need to rant, too.
What is with guys assuming they can give all the work to the girls?

Okay, I'm in my Planning 10 class, and I get grouped up with a bunch of guys for this poster project that's due Thursday. They basically just throw almost all the assignment at me and they're like, "Get working!"
AHHHH! Jackass freeloaders!

Oh well, they're lazy losers anyway, I'm screwed either way.
Either I do most of the project and it gets a decent mark (and everyone gets credit, much to my dismay), or I just do my small part I'm originally supposed to do and no one else does their part (except Travis. I know he'll get some done.), and we get like .. . a 0.

This is why I hate being a pushover.

Jeannette · « **Reply #3238 on:** February 22 2006, 01:50 pm »

Yeah, that kind of situation always sucks. I've been there a few times. Either way you're screwed. Much pity for you.

Sugar Fairy · « **Reply #3239 on:** February 22 2006, 03:13 pm »

Quote from: LadyUltima on February 22 2006, 12:51 pm

SasukeRocks pretty much sums up my advice. Just talk to the guy, and hope for the best. I don't think he hates you, though; I think he's just uncomfortable with the situation.

*nods* I second this. I think they don't know how to handle this situation. If you think about it, how would YOU handle the situation if faced with the same scenario?

Just keep your chin up, and hope for the best, buut expect the worst. Good luck!

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