The Girl Thread (New Poll as of May 24th!)

[moezychan]

I guess I will. Let me start by saying that my life s**ks! I'm 22, I'm in college, and I have never had a date in my life, let alone been kissed! If anything I always attract the weirdos! I've had men who are old enough to be my grandfather hit on me. It always seems that the guys I like won't have anything to do with me, and the guys I want to avoid won't leave me alone. Am I doing anything wrong because this is so frustrating!

Anyone have any advice?

[charme.*]

ehhh.. i'm 14 so lets say i won't be able to give a very good advice. Just one thing.. you have to be yourself.. you'll see that in that way you will find somebody
i had one boyfriend.. but it only lasted for 2 months.. and i really didn't loved him ( i mean i liked him but real love.. no) so it was pointless..-though i don't regret it-

[AkaiYuki]

Ack OK girlies, this is gonna be hard for me to type so be nice if there are typos.. (I played piano and violin for HOURS today and my hands are killing me...) But I was gonna respond to moezy-chan! ^_^ So here goes! First of all, do you *look* for guys, or do you let them look for you? Second, if you do look for them, where do you go to look? (Maybe you're going to the wrong places or something...) And third, do you approach guys you have an interest in, and if so, do you try to be friends or go out togeher in a platonic way before dating? (But as for your personality and way you treat people, girl, you are doing NOTHING wrong! ^_^)

[moezychan]

Ack OK girlies, this is gonna be hard for me to type so be nice if there are typos.. (I played piano and violin for HOURS today and my hands are killing me...) But I was gonna respond to moezy-chan! ^_^ So here goes! First of all, do you *look* for guys, or do you let them look for you? Second, if you do look for them, where do you go to look? (Maybe you're going to the wrong places or something...) And third, do you approach guys you have an interest in, and if so, do you try to be friends or go out togeher in a platonic way before dating? (But as for your personality and way you treat people, girl, you are doing NOTHING wrong! ^_^)

For one thing, I am way too shy to approach any guys and as far as looking is concerned, I go to college, I go to work, and I come home to more work. I have homework, dishes, laundry which I'm sick of doing, and I clean my room whenever Tornado Teresa (my onee-san) strikes. So I don't have time to do any looking. Maybe that's my problem. I'm an overachiever. Also, I'm not always nice. I can have a temper when I want to.

And I don't date because I never have. Didn't help that my okaa-san homeschooled me for my remaining 3 years of high school and I am shy by nature. I can talk easily on the forums; no pressure, but actual talking face to face was always hard for me. I used to have a speech problem when I was a child. I spoke with a lisp and I did get speech therapy, so I don't talk with it anymore but I'm still self cautious about talking, because when I'm extremely nervous, I lisp again.

[Moon]

I've never dated myself either. Well.. expect for one time I had a "date" for a school dance. Only, instead of it just being the two of us, it more a group thing. No double dating or anything like that.

I mean, I had fun and I got to dance with him.. but still, he didn't like me back. For as long as I can remember, at least by the time I hit puberty, I was overweight. Maybe not that much but enough for guys to keep their distance from me ( I was shy and dressed in non-fashionable clothes. I usually hang out with my closest friends and had my mind on homework, and crap like that. ) Plus I was never interested in boys to being with. I have two older brothers and they alone made me uninterested in any other male. I didn't become interested in any guy up until last year. But only in one. One that broke my heart... a waste of my emotions, really.

Anyway.. now that I've lost weight I really doubt I'm going to date dating anytime soon. I'm 18 and starting college in winter. I won't have time to date anyone. Aside from college, I'll probably get a job. Those two things will keep me busy.

I may find a guy that I'll like someday but I'm doubtful any guy would like me.. >>;; I'm so werid and emotional. Heh.

If I had advice to give, Moezy-chan, I'd be more then willing to share it with you. <3

[AkaiYuki]

Huuwaaa, moezy-chan is so busy! >_< Hmm, what to do... Ok... so since you go to college, are there any clubs or anything you can join? Even if you are so busy you can't actually *stay* in the club, if you can even get the courage (and the time! XD) to go in for one day and meet some people maybe you can meet them on campus for meals, or studying? Anything like that? (But DANG, girl, you ARE busy... But also, are your parents *making* you work or will they support you if you leave? Because if relationships are more important to you, I'd leave the job if I could. But if you enjoy it or don't have that option, then I dunno...)

[moezychan]

Huuwaaa, moezy-chan is so busy! >_< Hmm, what to do... Ok... so since you go to college, are there any clubs or anything you can join? Even if you are so busy you can't actually *stay* in the club, if you can even get the courage (and the time! XD) to go in for one day and meet some people maybe you can meet them on campus for meals, or studying? Anything like that? (But DANG, girl, you ARE busy... But also, are your parents *making* you work or will they support you if you leave? Because if relationships are more important to you, I'd leave the job if I could. But if you enjoy it or don't have that option, then I dunno...)

Yes I am busy because I already am in a club along with everything else I do. And as far as leaving the job is concerned, my parents made it clear that they are not going to help me with my college payments. I am literally putting myself through college, and helping to support my family.

[Zeldi]

Yes I am busy because I already am in a club along with everything else I do. And as far as leaving the job is concerned, my parents made it clear that they are not going to help me with my college payments. I am literally putting myself through college, and helping to support my family.

Aaaaw*huggels Mozey*... But still you are pushing yourself to far.. *tear*...Zeldi-Chan wants everyone  to be happy... *thinks* All i can do to help is litsen and try to help >< *gives cookie*

[AkaiYuki]

Kyaa, you're already in a club, too? And I'm very sorry about your parents not helping you through college.. (And expecting you to help THEM as well!) So, about the club, what kind of club is it? Is it a kind where you have time to talk to other people? Even if you can't talk to boys due to nerves or something, are there any girls you can become friends with who can introduce you to some guys? Hyuu, but you are crazy busy and crazy over-worked and crazy under-appreciated... Let's all give moezy-chan some love! *gives her a cooke like Zeldi did* XD

[Star]

I have never dated anyone yet either but I'm only 16.  But then i look at this town and i can see why not.  These people (well most of them) are dumb, have no personalities, or are jerks, or have been corrupted by their parents.

[charme.*]

well.. i'm sure you'll find somebody.. though-- why having a date is such a big deal?
i really don't understand some people...

[Star]

I really don't want one yet anyways  they seem to be annoying and clingy  It's just another person you have to pay attention to. 
Anyway my true love is made of ink and paper   

[Miss Jenni-Maie]

Well, considering the way things are with me right now...
I certainly wouldn't mind a boyfriend. I could use the company.

[moezychan]

Kyaa, you're already in a club, too? And I'm very sorry about your parents not helping you through college.. (And expecting you to help THEM as well!) So, about the club, what kind of club is it? Is it a kind where you have time to talk to other people? Even if you can't talk to boys due to nerves or something, are there any girls you can become friends with who can introduce you to some guys? Hyuu, but you are crazy busy and crazy over-worked and crazy under-appreciated... Let's all give moezy-chan some love! *gives her a cooke like Zeldi did* XD

The club I'm in is called the Early Childhood Student Association (ECSA). It deals with my major. I want to become a teacher. And I know people, but they haven't introduced me to anybody. Even if they did, I don't think I could stand a blind date. I'm nervous when I'm around new people so think how nervous I would be to somebody I never met and I would have to date him!

[charme.*]

there is no reason why to feel nervous! maybe you should relax a bir more.. ^^
what do u think??

[moezychan]

there is no reason why to feel nervous! maybe you should relax a bir more.. ^^
what do u think??

With all I take on, it's hard to be relaxed. My life is so stressed. This forum, anime, and manga are the only things that can relax me.

[charme.*]

With all I take on, it's hard to be relaxed. My life is so stressed. This forum, anime, and manga are the only things that can relax me.

i understand what you are saying... same happned to me. I thought a boyfirend would make me forget about my problems.. maybe help to relax myself a little bit more (hehe i was wrong )
But maybe if you tried to - just for once- be a little bit more selfish ( hoho i'll lead you to the dark side *evil grin*) and try to forget about the rest of the world.. you would enjoy things more
me thinks.. i can be completely mistaken (happens frequently)

[moezychan]

i understand what you are saying... same happned to me. I thought a boyfirend would make me forget about my problems.. maybe help to relax myself a little bit more (hehe i was wrong )
But maybe if you tried to - just for once- be a little bit more selfish ( hoho i'll lead you to the dark side *evil grin*) and try to forget about the rest of the world.. you would enjoy things more
me thinks.. i can be completely mistaken (happens frequently)

I can't be selfish, I've tried. I get guilty too much.

[KawaiiHana]

With all I take on, it's hard to be relaxed. My life is so stressed. This forum, anime, and manga are the only things that can relax me.

XD I know how you feel... sometimes I feel like that too.
I'm really nervous around people as well....Its been a pretty big
obstacle in my life.I would always be afraid to speak out.
Thats why I'm taking a Public Speaking Class...which I'm hoping
will help open me out a little. But now that I've joined that class
I'm more nervous than ever! XD

[Star]

I understand Moezy  teachery type people  (well the good ones at least)  aren't usually selfish they take on too much  than they can handle  (i know cauz my mom's one of them she's double majoring in special ed and EL ed.  but she graduates in december so hopefully she'll be fine)  they take care of everybody.